What makes a good Ex?

I read this on a blog that I often read, and I really like the message, I wish that someone else would stop watching CSI and NCIS to read and understand these...

1. A good ex is one who keeps the other parent up to date on the kids' school and doctors. That means sending copies of report cards, field trip notices, school newsletters for school and letting the other parent know ahead of time when doctor appointments are. Provide an update after the appointment.

2. A good ex is one who doesn't make the children feel bad for leaving them when they go to visit the other parent.

3. A good ex is one who allows the children telephone and Internet access with their other parent when they are with you without burdening them with your anger or resentment over it.

4. A good ex is one who doesn't grill the kids about what went on in the other parent's home while they were there.

5. A good ex is one who sees visitation as their child's time; not just the other parent's time...and respects that.

6. A good ex is one who shares transportation when possible. This time is for your child and both parents share responsibility for ensuring that time and bond. It should be referred to differently than parenting time because it's not just for the parent. It's for the child.

7. A good ex is one who is civil and polite without overstepping their boundaries.

8. A good ex is one who doesn't use the child's parenting time with the other parent as a bargaining tool to get what they want (you can have daughter if you give me xyz.)

9. A good ex is one who is emotionally healthy and is able to move beyond the resentments from the marriage/break-up to co-parent.

10. A good ex is one who doesn't make any demands on the other parent like there is still a relationship (fixing a car, moving something, a shoulder to cry on or ear to bend). That relationship is over. The only relationship you have now is as parents.

11. Don't answer the door in very little clothing. You likely will give the other parent something to laugh about later (been there, seen that, lol).

6 months

Big D is 6 months old today... enjoy the pics...

Worrying... Part 2

Ok, so EVERYTHING was dismissed at the hearings on Friday!! Yay!! Woo hoo!! Somebody obviously knew she didn't have a leg to stand on. But naturally, something new is coming our way... so soon after a victory... but I can't worry about it. Do you ever notice that when something so dramatic happens to someone you love, you can't stop thinking about it... and then your own life starts being a little crazy?? That may just be me. However, I decided that I can't let this drama affect MY life, MY goals and MY happiness. So, tonight, for the first time in a LOOONG time, I actually turned in my homework on time! I'm so exctied... a huge weight lifted off my chest. I just have to remember to take things one step at a time... Wish me luck! Oh, more pics coming from this past weekend of craziness... I'll explain later... I'm gonna get some nice restful sleep, now that I'm not worrying about homework in the back of my head.

Worried

I hate to worry. I really do, but I can't stop myself from worrying. I wish that I could stop, but since I'm a constant worrier, that would be like cutting off my hand... I don't think that I would know what to do with myself. I am currently worried about: (in order of importance)
1. The hearing tomorrow. I hope that everyone can put aside their anger, rationalizations and remember to do what is best for Big J, T&T, and Bulldog.
2. My statistics class... it's like math... only with weird symbols, and where everything can change...
3. The "Dad" situation. I won't go into details, as it truly deserves its own post or two, but none the less, I'm worried about it.
4. The J situtation that followed the incident from my previous post.
5. Sending out thank you cards for Christmas
6.Money
7. Upcoming shift bid
8. My relationships with R, J, M, C & D... am I really doing it right?
9. My relationships with my new co-workers at my super cool job that I have had for offically a month!!... am I doing that right?
10. The economy (finally something a little less ego-centric)
11. World Peace... I'm sick of all the war... seriously, would things be worse off if everyone just stopped fighting?

Leave me some comments on some of the things that you worry about... that way I don't feel so selfish.